What is a Child’s True Nature

“Any educating must be guided by the basic qualities inherent in every child: faith and trust, wonder and reverence, and self-forgetful surrender.” Excerpts from the talks and writings of Eberhard Arnold give insights on the innate qualities of a child and how these can show us what man’s true nature should be.

When childlike hearts are moved, it is the Holy Spirit who moves them. The child’s life represents a new beginning in the light. To be a child means to make a new beginning.

The Gospel of John loves the light of eternal life. It says, “Believe in the Light, that you may be made children of the Light.” This is the most wonderful thing anyone could say about children. Children love the light, they do not like darkness. They hunger for life and thirst for light. They have no joy in the things of darkness. A true child loves the light and wants to get to it. He loves everything that light reveals in nature. But he loves even more deeply the divine light of God.

Everything belongs to God; therefore everything belongs to the children. They are God’s children, truly children of God, the children of God’s Spirit, who creates all things.

We want to bring the little children very close to Jesus. In their nature lies just that which belongs to the Kingdom of God.

Our work with children rests on the faith that the living Christ wishes to arouse from within each person all that is good in the way of decisions and abilities. The less the powers of hatred hold sway over a man the more open his heart is to the Spirit of peace and unity. So we concern ourselves in a special way with children, because they are not yet bound to the powers of evil to such an extent as grown-ups; for good powers lie latent in the child, waiting to be awakened. All brothers and sisters are ready to help the children, but in particular those who share the life of the children inside and outside the school.

A Child is Trusting
A child trustingly accepts everything we give him, not to take possession of it but to become absorbed in it. The child does not feel any barriers between himself and the great world around him. In the very act of receiving, he gives himself. A small child does not separate himself from what he experiences. He senses what is given to him as part of the great world in which he becomes absorbed.

A Child Believes in Forgiveness
This is the childlike spirit: every child feels with perfect security that his father and mother will forgive him endlessly, no matter how many times he does something wrong. It would never occur to a child that the forgiving love of his father and mother might come to an end because he was naughty too many times.

A Child is Outspoken
Genuine children will tell us immediately what they feel. As long as we let them be children, they will say what they do not like. They will not keep something quiet to a person’s face and then talk about it behind his back. Cowardly deception is unchildlike. Real children are completely open; they are always ready to reveal whatever is in their hearts.

A Child is a Free Person
Children are free, truly free. All children are free! They must never become the property of father or mother, much less of anyone else. Any action that deprives a child of his freedom is a despising and degrading of the child.

God’s heart loves little children and His eye is upon them. He sees in them His own childlike Spirit. Therefore we must honor God in children; we must honor His messengers in them.

A Child Has an Innate Religious Feeling
In children we find a capacity for trust, justice, and self-forgetful enthusiasm that we ourselves have lost. This quality is what Jesus means when He says, “You must become like little children.”

Children experience the mystery of what is sacred and divine, though of course in quite a different way from grown-ups. The child has no knowledge of religious dogma or of the established form of Church services. But he experiences the mystery of sacred things because he is free from thoughts about his little self – free from self-observation – free to take into his heart the mystery of all life. He senses the light of God behind the stars that are kindled in the sky; in the wind he senses the soaring of angels. He senses the living creative Spirit when he sees the flowers swaying in the breeze. He senses the beauty and strength of God’s Spirit in the splendors of nature. In men’s love for one another and in the love of his own child heart, he senses the mystery of God’s love, the source of life.

For a real child, love is creative joy in whatever he loves. In this love he abandons himself to the things that bring him joy. That is why the child can show a trust hardly ever found in us adults. The child is a trusting being, made for community.

A Child Has a Sense of Social Justice
Every real child is a social being with an instinctive sense of justice, which urges him to help anyone who is worse off than he is. In a living organism, in a body united within itself, no cell lives for itself. Each one freely serves the others. So-called natural selfishness, even in children, is a disease or period of temptation and must be overcome. It contradicts the child’s enthusiasm, which shows itself in his unselfish devotion to others and his natural feeling for justice.

Any educating must be guided by the basic qualities inherent in every child: faith and trust, wonder and reverence, and self-forgetful surrender. These qualities of the true child actually reveal to us what man’s true nature should be.

A Child is an Individual
We respect the personality and uniqueness of each child in the light of something deeper than the purely personal, for this leads through the development of the individual to community, which is beyond the personal. In this way, individual abilities become serviceable for the whole. The specific gifts of every single child should be recognized and helped to develop along the lines of his true vocation. In the deeper sense, this must and will lead to loving service of the community of mankind, to the uniting of all the special characteristics of each one. Our community education therefore means doing justice to each child in the unfolding of all the abilities given to him. Under no circumstances should we force on him anything that is not given him at birth, that does not come from his own heart as his spiritual life awakens, that is not newly begotten and born in him through God. Guiding children toward a vocation has to be different for every single child; it will then be decisive for his whole life and will prepare him for his calling in practical service.

We cannot mold our children to conform to our own wishes. The only true service to our children is to help them become what they already are in God’s thoughts. Each child is a thought in the mind of God, and we should not try to mold a child according to our own ideas for his development. That would not be true service to the child. We will be able to do that service only if in each child we grasp the thought God has had for this very child from all Eternity, and still has and will always hold to. This thought of God is the holy “Thou Shalt” for this child. God knows what this child is meant to be. This is the service of the Church, of the parents, of all of us: to allow the child to become what this particular child is meant to be according to God’s original thought. And here again, we need the religious intuition that enables us to grasp this thought of God, as yet apparently hidden from us – to grasp it more and more clearly from day to day, from moment to moment, from year to year. Then the molding of the child is not something we undertake. Rather, our service consists precisely in helping with the molding God has in mind. That is the secret of service.

Published in Children’s Education in Community  (Plough Publishing, 1976, 2017).

Article edited for length and clarity.